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If you are going through a break-up I am truly sorry, the overwhelming feeling of needing and missing your boyfriend can be literally unbearable. In this article I'm going to give you some strategies you can use to start the healing process and get your boyfriend back.

If your break up is very recent, then despite how much it hurts or how many times you tell yourself "I need my boyfriend back" Give Him Some Space. Men tend to withdraw from a situation when they feel overwhelmed or when they feel like they have to deal with your emotions as well as his own. Cutting off contact is one of the most difficult things for most people to do. At a time when you feel sad and alone, trying to repeatedly call or email him can actually be detrimental to the recovery process. You both need time to think and to miss each other. The old cliché of "Distance makes the heart grow fonder," is completely true.

Instead of calling or emailing, write a letter, just don't send it yet. Write out your feelings, whether they are anger, sadness, desperation, etc. This helps you come to terms with your feelings and can make you feel a little better. Even though your boyfriend isn't necessarily reading it, your brain still releasing it and I guarantee it will relieve some of the pain. The other thing this does is to help prepare you to talk to him, when the time is right. Right after a break up the overwhelming feeling of needing your boyfriend back can often cloud your perception of the situation. Writing it all out gives you the opportunity to really focus on what went wrong and push aside any minor frustrations.

The other thing to remember is that your boyfriend is probably hurting as well. Even if he is the one who initiated the break up, normal human behavioral responses will not let most people just turn off their emotions. Try to picture the situation from his point of view. This will help you stay connected with him and can be a big factor when you do start to talk things out. It will show him that you respect his feelings, which is a huge step in the recovery process.

I strongly discourage trying to play on his jealousy emotions by seeing someone else right away or getting his friends involved, just to relieve your loneliness. This is between you and your boyfriend and if it was truly meant to be, then you will get your boyfriend back.