Young girls often fantasize about their wedding day. They imagine the handsome groom, the pretty flowers, and especially the beautiful gown. If you have ever draped a pillowcase over your head like a bridal veil, I am speaking to you! It is easy to get swept up in the romance of imagining a fairy tale wedding, and forget about the marriage that (hopefully) lasts for a lifetime afterwards. Be sure that you are ready for the marriage, not just the wedding, before you take that stroll down the aisle.

Immaturity has caused many a young woman in love to leap into marriage too quickly. Sometimes the young man is not the right person for her long term, or sometimes he is, but they are too young to make such a serious commitment. It is important to understand the "forever" that comes after the excitement of the honeymoon is past, as well as to have a realistic view of the daily routine of marriage.

Some signs that you may not be ready to be married are:

· You are too young to drink at your wedding. 
· You think that butterfly tattoos would be a better gift for your attendants than classic pearl bridesmaid jewelry (hint: the pearl bridesmaid jewelry is timeless; a tattoo on your tush is not!). 
· You spend sixth period doodling "Mrs. Joe Smith" on your algebra notebook. 
· You never let him see you without your makeup. 
· Your mother has to tell you to take the gum out of your mouth before walking down the aisle. 
· You are getting married to escape your parents' house. 
· You think that your marriage will be as perfect as the ones in the movies.

Marriage is wonderful if both people have an understanding of its meaning. The commitment to your relationship will deepen your love and strengthen your bond with your spouse. There is also a feeling of security that comes with marriage, as well as the pleasure of becoming part of a new family (hopefully you get along well with your in-laws!).

Indications that you are ready for marriage include:

· You both share the same hopes and plans for a shared future. 
· You would move across the country with him without a second thought. 
· You are comfortable letting him see you when you look and feel a mess (if he takes good care of you when you are sick - he is a definitely a keeper.) 
· You are excited about the wedding, but realize that it is only one day, and marriage is a lifelong commitment.

Some religions require engaged couples to take a test before the wedding to determine their compatibility. It may seem silly, but at least it is a way to make sure that couples become aware of any serious differences they may have before it is too late. There is a reason why a year long engagement is beneficial, beyond just being able to get into a popular venue. If you and your fiance know each other very well before the wedding, you will be getting off to a good start for a long and happy life together.

Laura helps brides with their wedding plans by offering advice on selecting bridesmaids gifts,reception ideas and other aspects of planning a wedding. At SilverlandJewelry.com you can find elegant pearl bridesmaid jewelry as well as other unique bridesmaids gifts.